4 Things You Can Do To Minimize Fighting

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 Fighting aIlows individuals to connect with their voices and acknowledge the full spectrum of human emotions. However, there are better ways to do it than others. Check out these 4 tips to minimize the fights.

• They Respect Each Other’s Time: It’s a good idea to check in with your partner to see if it’s a good time to talk when you have something on your mind. This shows that you care about your partner’s time and emotional state.

• They’re Careful With Their Words: Instead of “you” statements, partners in an emotionally healthy relationship often use “I” statements, which comes across less accusatory and gives their partner an opportunity to help solve the problem.

• They Stick To The Topic At Hand: Good communicators stay on track and don’t go off on tangents about the past in the middle of a conversation. Stayin on topic helps foster solution-based convos and tends to leave both parties feeling good and not emotionally beat up.

• They Don’t Give Ultimatums: Though boundaries are healthy and encouraged, they don’t include either/or statements. When requests are made – as opposed to demands – the issue becomes a meaningful issue and not a power struggle between two well-meaning people.